How to Get My Last Book Free and How to Love a Writer

Hey all, my publisher, David C. Cook, is giving away my latest book, Divine Intention, for free for the next twenty four hours. That’s right, its free on every major online retailer:,, Ibooks, Google Play, and even Kobo– for our Canadian friends. Hope you scoot on over and grab it today.

If you get to this post late, no fears: The book will be on sale, starting tomorrow. $2.99 for the next month. Personally, I think you should download the book for free and buy yourself a latte.

Thanks for your support.

Speaking of which, here’s how you can support your favorite small time authors:

1) When deal like this come up, help spread the word. Authors, by their very nature, are often introverted. We feel down right obnoxious when we find ourselves constantly plugging our own work. Like that guy who keeps calling your house to invite you to that Tupperware Party. Do they still make that stuff and have parties? It’s good to be a guy and not know these things.

2) Write a review of the book on Amazon. Truthfully, it doesn’t matter if its a good review or a bad review. A review means the book caused someone to have a reaction. The worst thing that can be said about a book is that it didn’t move a reader one way or the other. I’ve tossed a few books across the room in anger, this before I got an e-reader. Hated the book, but at least it was worded well enough to get a rise out of me. That’s good.

3) There is no three. We’re a simple folk. And we appreciate the support.

Hidden Identity

They asked him, “Then who are you? Are you Elijah?”

He said, “I am not.” –John the Baptist

John 1:22

“And if you are willing to accept it, he is the Elijah who was to come.” — Jesus, speaking about John the Baptist

Matthew 11:14

John the Baptist. Image from

I’ve never caught this contradiction before. The waning pages of the Old Testament contained a prophesy about a messenger who would come in the spirit of Elijah, the great prophet, to prepare God’s people for their long awaited Messiah. In Jesus days, God honoring folk weren’t just waiting for the coming of their Messiah, they were also waiting for this second Elijah, who’d be the indicator that things were about to go down.

Enter John the Baptist, making a splash, wearing his camel hair suit. Locust wings caught between his teeth. He had been a member of the Qumran Society, a quirky band of religious separatists who lived in the moral safety of the arid wilderness, while preaching judgment on the morally lapse folk living in the big city. John, apparently, was fifteen degrees more odd than his peers, and broke off to gather his own band of followers to sing his own arrangement of “People Get Ready.”

And the masses responded to John’s message, even though he stood the rite of baptism on his head. Baptism, itself,was a recent religious innovation Pharisees used to bring Gentile converts into the fold. John took it a step further and insisted Jews also participate. John leveled the playing field– everyone comes to God the same way, Chosen People or not. Continue Reading…

Throwing the Characters Down A(nother) Flight of Stairs

Last month my wife gave me an amazing gift, one that any writer would covet. She read my manuscript. Writers know this is a huge investment of time that concludes with her being willing to offer the critique and weather whatever insecure and defensive responses I happened to muster.  Years ago, I read an article that advised against expecting your family to read your work if you want to be a happy writer. I’m not sure I’ve ever asked her to read anything I’ve written before, but this MS was perhaps the most personal thing I’ve put on paper.

Waiting her to finish the novel was excruciating. She was mostly tight-lipped until she finished. She offered an “it’s good”, a long list of typos, and her assessment the ending didn’t work. Not at all.

Amy has earned the right to be heard when it comes to story structure. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve watched a television show and she guesses the ending and then offers a superior plot to what an entire conference room of Hollywood writers could offer. Who was I to think I’d fare any better?

The gift of her complaint with the book is that I had my two central characters make a tragic moral compromise, but only made one of them desperate enough to sell his soul. His girl friend is a willing accomplice to his plot, but up to this point, all of her experiences and morals would lead the reader to expect better of her. Her corruption wasn’t believable.


The problem was that I’d only thrown one character down the proverbial flight of stairs. That’s not completely true. Isis, the character in question, has a backstory filled with family dysfunction. But that was long ago, and those experienced shaped her to be vehemently opposed to what I need her to do to complete story.

The solution is for me to open the novel up and construct a long flight of stairs to toss both characters down. So disregard my earlier post about getting ready for Query Shark.

More immediate work lies ahead of me.


The Impossible Expectations of Parenting

This week I facilitated a learning experience with about thirty rowdy moms. The topic was dealing with the expectations of motherhood, which is perhaps a silly and even irresponsible topic for me to tackle, being a man. I choose to talk as little as possible and give the room freedom to provide the wisdom. This is always a good idea when teaching, but essential when you are uniquely unqualified to be the expert.

So I asked the women to list all the expectations that society, media, faith and family place on the office of motherhood. A massive list erupted:

  •  Coach
  • Nurse
  • Doctor
  • Mind Reader
  • Cleaner
  • Cook
  • Nutritionist
  • Disciplinarian
  • Cheerleader
  • Psychologist
  • Psychiatrist (Really? What are you ladies prescribing?)
  • Home repair
  • Waste Management
  • Have to look good doing it
  • Have to look happy doing it
  • Leader
  • Financial Director
  • Bank
  • Taxi
  • Tutor
  • Confidant
  • Bible teacher

The list was at least a dozen items longer. I pointed out we could complete the exercise for “wife” and “employee” if we had time, an observation that momentarily cast heaviness over the room. Continue Reading…

Trophies are Found Along the Path, Not at the Finish Line

A few weeks ago I ran the Tough Mudder adventure challenge. I found myself wrestling with an odd and inconvenient thought throughout the race: “Will finishing the course feel emotionally gratifying?” Stressing over how I’d feel finishing the race seemed odd, when I had more pressing things to be anxious about: Electrocution or cramping up, for starters. But I knew I was in good shape, so subconsciously must have known I had the luxury of entertaining my nuttier side (No worries: I support the local economy and see a therapist.)  I remembered other big accomplishments from the past and the let down I felt in their aftermath. I wanted to know if the culmination of eight months of training would make me happy. Crazy, I know. At least I had the occasional obstacle to distract my thinking.

Sure enough, at the end of the race, I staggered across the finish line, seconds after being electrocuted and scanned my emotional dashboard. I felt hot, tired, annoyed, and satisfied. But, no, I did not feel especially joyful. No crowds congratulated us. No theme to Rocky. Our team high-fived each other and staggered to the open air showers, where 12,000 weary athletes exchanged modesty for the opportunity to get the mud off our bodies.

The big emotional trophy wasn’t at the finish line. We didn’t hoist joy above our heads like the Stanley Cup. That’s not to say there wasn’t any emotional payoff. I just looked for it the wrong place.  Continue Reading…

It Really Is Going to Be All Right

When I was a younger man and oblivious to life’s jagged edges,  I didn’t enjoy reggae much. Throwing your head back and wailing “It’s gonna be alright” felt escapist. In the face of so much work to be done–  whether professionally, or breaking yourself against the Great Commission, or meeting the  next writing deadline, or spreading the jam of a paycheck across a large loaf of bills, or trying not to be a train wreck of  spouse and father, singing about harmony felt like that time DeSean Jackson spiked the football a few yards before he crossed the end zone.  You just don’t party until the work gets done.

I was youthful and believed deep down with enough effort I would muscle through each challenge. And then, everything would be all right.

Years later, I’ve come to accept that when all right comes, and its never going to fully come in this lifetime,  it’s going to be a gift.

The truth is my effort is necessary but it’s never going to be enough.

Marriage and parenting are too complex to be mastered by any set of formulas. Everyone in the nest came equipped with their own goals and free will. None of us in the brood are projects to be fixed. Including me, although it’s easier to keep my garage in order than each and every anxious or depressed thought strewn around the joint. Continue Reading…

What if We Used Empathy Instead of Blame to Fuel Change?

Once  a month or so, the guys get together to eat at one of Erie’s many dives in search of the perfect burger, wings, or ribs. The particular dive we hit on Saturday earned a web review of being home to an eclectic mixture of fishermen and homeless people. True enough, but it also is home to the best burger I’ve had in this town. We brought our own eclectic flare to the room. The core of this traveling dinner party are all Crossfitters,  but often family, coworkers, and church friends get invites. The table changes each month and so does the conversation.

This month I found myself sitting across from a performing artist who regularly signs up for six month contracts in Korea. He shared how he entertained him in the evenings at strip clubs where the women perform particularly degrading acts on themselves with props. I was torn. I didn’t want to nod my head  give him the impression I was okay with the behavior. But I didn’t want to moralize either. That would be the expected response for the pastor at the table. I’m also growing in the realization that blame is a rotten way to motivate change. I’m reading Dr. Brené Brown’s book, Daring Greatly.  She explains that blame is the unproductive discharge of pain into a relationship. Casting blame is cathartic but corrosive. The other person either withdrawals from the relationship or clings even more to their self-destructive behavior. Continue Reading…

Book Review: Death By Living

N.D. Wilson released the fantastic and dizzying Notes from the Tilt-a-Whirl in 2009.  The book wove a theological  treatise on life that was  somehow both poetic and frenetic, all at once. I was out of breath when I turned the final page. Wilson painted compelling snap shots of life and flipped through them with the recklessness of a child.

His follow up, Death By Living: Life is Meant to be Spent (Thomas Nelson), is filled with the same picturesque language and theological insight. However, the Tilt-a-Whirl revolves more slowly this time. Wilson’s gaze is locked on life’s vaporousness and frailty. Wonderment yields to solemnity over the realization time manhandles its passengers. The reader is given the gift of watching Wilson number his own days by recounting the lives of his grandparents, offering Solomonic reflections, and sharing scenes of touring the Vatican with a gaggle of small children.

He revisits the popular notion that life is a story, but pushes the reader past an initial infatuation with the concept. The temptation of our social media ages is to believe that “tweeting” our aspirational goals is the same thing as living them out. His three-line childhood memoir captures the error of this sentiment:

 Me: I’m going to be a writer.

My father: Here’s your pencil.

Me: Darn it. Continue Reading…

Over Thinking Tough Mudder

I completed my first Tough Mudder this weekend.  10.5 miles of mud, hills, and obstacles. I am questioning my intelligence. I paid a lot of money to abuse myself. The abuse included willing running through a field of dangling wire and getting knocked on my fanny by 10,000 volts of electricity. I jumped into a dump truck filled with ice water. I had to sign a paper saying I’d only defecate in designated areas and not smuggle beer into my Camelback hydration system. This tells me other Mudders committed these offenses and, that, collectively we mudders might not be the sharpest knives in the drawer. Call it insecurity, but I felt the need to flex my mind and apply Andy Crouch’s “Five Questions” to understand Tough Mudder as a cultural artifact.

2013 Tough Mudder Team

2013 Tough Mudder Team

1. What do adventure challenges assume about the world?

Adventure challenges assume that, for most people, life has become sedentary, safe, and risk free. People’s lives are sanitized to the point of boredom, and they crave stimulation and danger, at least the sense of danger. Continue Reading…

Riley Cooper, The “N” Word, and the Burden to Forgive

I was disappointed to learn Eagles’ wide receier Riley Cooper dropped the N-bomb during a confrontation at a Kenny Chesney concert at Lincoln financial field. A by-stander uploaded a video of the ugliness. Naturally, it went viral. The Eagles acted swiftly but perhaps leniently and hit him with an undisclosed fine. Cooper, to his credit, manned up and apologized without excuse.

Cooper’s sin is particularly hard for me to forgive. When Paula Deen fell from grace a few weeks ago for the public disclosure of her use of the N-bomb and her desire to have an antebellum-style wedding, complete with black waitstaff, some of my friends protested that her sponsors would abandon her without grace.

Not me. She dug her own grave, so be it, I told myself.

I’m not proud of my difficulty forgiving racial prejudice. Continue Reading…

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