Cross-Cultural Partnership…

I’m spent.

We just wrapped up great weekend hosting an abstinance conference for children and youth K-12. An urban, largely African American Church, Greater Calvary Full Gospel Baptist Church invited my church to partner with them to host this event. 570 children and teens attended the event and had classes on violence, bullying, relational aggresison, drugs, tobacco, and sexual purity. Many of the teens in attendence were bussed in from Mental Health Residential Treatment Centers and housing projects. About 100 parents stayed for classes on how to talk to their children about sex, violence, and substance abuse.

It was a tremendous day and a huge success. This week I’ll be posting about how your church can also benefit from collaboration with ethnically diverse congregations. I believe each of our congregations found new energy and learned much. I’m in for next year… after a long nap.

Parents Accompanying Their Kids To Job Interviews

Ok, this is just hilarious but it is so much a result of what we see in Children’s Ministry for the past couple of decades: Overprotective Parents. Now in the interests of “full-disclosure” I must admit to a rather feral upbringing. No seatbelts, not much in the way or curfew and no helmet when I went riding my Sting Ray bike (with a totally cool banana seat). So to read Sue Shellenbarger’s Thursday’s column in the Wall Street Journal (“Work & Family”, p. D1, 3/16/2006) about “Helicopter Parents Go To Work” (i.e. they are “hovering” over their child’s job interview) I was just philosophic about what we’ve done! Listen to this! It’s even measured by one company:

Upon getting an offer at Vanguard Group, seven out of 10 college recruits say, “ ’Let me talk to my parents. I’ll get back to you,’ ” says Karen Fox, college relations and recruiting manager.
 What is really funny is how these employers (and there are many quoted in the article from the Vanguard Group, St. Paul Travelers, GE and Boeing) have actually ALLOWED this to take place and really don’t seem fazed by it. In fact it doesn’t impact the applicant’s prospects at all!

WOW! I am secretly having a blast with this observation in our parenting behavior! It just won’t stop after children leave our ministry will it!!!! So get used to it and bring these parents along when you train their children and encourage their over-involvement!

Personality Tests May Be Illegal As Hiring Tools

Ok, we’ve all done it haven’t we? Taken the MMPI to attend undergraduate or graduate school, endured the DiSC psychometric behavioral model or even filled out a personality test in Cosmopolitan Magazine (sorry, I just had to knock the last one!). But in what I think is the churches most glaring weakness—hiring and firing—comes one more reason to be suspicious or cautious in the use of personality tests. The U.S. Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit, in Chicago (Federal Courts are the laws of the land, not just one state) ruled that a personality test used to fill management positions at Rent-A-Center qualifies as a medical exam. This is significant (reported in 3/15/06 issue of The Wall Street Journal (B3A) because you cannot do that unless mental stability is required for public safety—like a police force. The Americans with Disabilities Act prohibits requiring medical examinations prior to making a job offer, and according to the appeals court’s decision, this includes positions filled internally. In addition, and this is amazing, the court ruled that the test, the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory, was inappropriate for this purpose as it is used to diagnose mental illness (so THAT’S Why BIOLA University and Dallas Seminary used it on me)! It’s interesting that churches in states like Massachusetts and Rhode Island cannot use Integrity and Honesty tests since they are BANNED by state law!

Ok, that’s the bad news, but that only applies to HIRING and PROMOTIONS. Coaching is another thing and the article in the Wall Street Journal clearly favors this approach, or at least reports it’s benefit to teamwork and productivity! One test really intrigues me,

            Unlike IQ tests, which tell you what you can do, and personality tests, which tell you what you want to do, Kolbe [a psychometric test used to improve team performance] tells you what you will or won’t do by measuring natural instincts according to Kolbe Corp.’s Web site. Kolbe defines four basic action modes: “Quick Starts” are innovators, who think on their feet; “Fact Finders” enjoy gathering information and becoming experts; “Follow Thrus” are natural organizers who complete tasks in a methodical way; “Implementors” figure things out by building models.

I also like the Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MS-CEIT, for short) which is designed to measure emotional intelligence by assessing a person’s capacity to identify emotions in others. Aptitude in this area is especially critical for Children’s Ministry workers in our Nursery, Greeters, Administrative Assistants, ok, for all of us! So in the words of the late President Ronald Reagan, “trust but verify.” But be careful when you test!

Treating Croup by Calming Child May Be Better than Use of Mist

The Jounal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) reports this week Dr. Dennis Scolnik’s, emergency-room doctor at Toronto’s Hospital for Sick Children, study saying that misting or rushing a croupy child into the shower is not effective. What is effective is

 

To hold and calm a child with moderate to severe cases of croup, because the soothing helps restore normal breathing!

 

I think it is amazing that 1 in 20 children develop croup and that since the 19th century the use of mist was widely touted as the cure but, Dr. Scolnik states, “there was actually no science behind it.” I love knowing how calm careful parents who do not panic resolve physical issues such as croup! Now, granted, severe cases require anti-inflammatory drugs, but the science is clear once again for the primacy and supremacy of a confident parent!

Study Links Asthma to Antibiotics

There’s interesting articles, most recently in the Tuesday, March 14, 2006 issue of the Wall Street Journal, D4, column 3, that report from the journal Chest the findings that too much of a good thing (antibiotics) are correlated strongly with high rates of allergies and asthma. Now, please note, CORRELATION is not CAUSATION and this is where all studies should be taken with suspicion. But I love this quote,

 

Clean, germ-free living may actually leave children more susceptible to developing allergies and asthma, a theory known as “hygiene hypothesis.” “We may be programmed to sample the microbial world so our immune systems can grow,” says Homer A boushey, who directs the Asthma Clinical Research Center at the University of California at San Francisco.

 

I read this same conclusion years ago in Dr. Paul Brand and Philip Yancey’s book Fearfully And Wonderfully Made. In it Dr. Brand, who is an expert in the treatment of Hansen’s Disease (loosely known to students of the Bible as Leprosy) and states that a little dirt actually a good thing!

 

What are the implications for ministry? Well, I always look at the social implications of parents refusal to head to the nursery because their little one “always get’s sick when they do.” Now we have some health implications as well. Also, clean and germ free are quite frankly unavoidable goals and now might be considered unhealthy in the long run!

A Reaction: The Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas Willard

I just finished reading The Spirit of the Disciplines by USC professor Dallas Willard and he states why our bible is so deeply important for you and I, listen to this:

“How do such Bible stories help? Upon a realistic, critical, adult reading, by those prepared to be honest with their experience, the Bible incisively lays bare the depths and obscurities of the human heart. This is why it continues to play the decisive role it does in human history and culture and why it is fitted to be the perpetual instrument of the Spirit of God for human transformation, as 2 Timothy 3:16 – 17 indicates.”

 I love that, “realistic, critical, adult reading”! Too often our readings are forced or loosely tied into our own involvement with their SIGNIFICANCE FOR US.

Christianity Today's Blog "Out of Ur": Where to send children to school?

http://blog.christianitytoday.com/outofur/archives/2006/03/really_old_scho_1.html#more

The editors of Leadership Journal have a fantastic blog, “Out of Ur.” I’ve linked you to an insightful post which draws parrellels between the choices that American Evangelicals make regarding how they relate to culture and 1st Century Judiasm. The writer of this post rightfully states that where we send our children to school says the much about our attititudes toward culture. Answers aren’t offered, but the tension is clarified. Great read.

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USA TODAY: Cigarette Sales at an All Time Low

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2006-03-09-cigarettes_x.htm?csp=34#

“The National Association of Attorneys General, relying on Treasury Department data, reported Wednesday that 378 billion cigarettes were sold in the United States last year. That is the lowest number sold since 1951, according to the attorneys general.”

“Anti-smoking advocates say one of the most difficult trends for them to counter is the effort by cigarette manufactures to market their products using in-store promotions and steep price discounts, which they say can be particularly attractive to kids.”

NYT: Church Arsons, a "joke"

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/09/national/09arson.html?hp&ex=1141966800&en=454a9c72d457af49&ei=5094&partner=homepage

Gratefully, the three college students responsible for the church arsons have been arrested. Authorites describe the incident as a “joke” gone bad, and that there were no racial motivations.

I can accept the lack of racial motivation, however the excuse “It was a joke” doesn’t wash. In recent years, there’s been much research on the profiles of fire setters. Decades ago, Freud believed that fire setters recieved sexual gratification from setting fires. However, more recent research shows a continuum of behaviors that starts with curiousity and escalates to crisis fire setting. Visit this website for info on fire setting theory. Most fires are started by curious preschoolers. However, some continue due to the attention and power that their behavior generates. 

In 2001, I lost my children’s wing to an arson. I wrote about it here.